by Andrea
Continuing the argument started by Lisa in "We have been ...".
I do not think there is nothing to feel guilty or stupid for being in Fof or any other sect or cult. It 'was what it was and the fact that they were stupid in the past, does not mean that you will always be! The pain at some point must give way to something new, what is now in the process of posting. If we can be (brutally) honest with ourselves all the experience may even be positive!
The most useful thing to me in giving up everything he had believed, was not so much dealing with the past as a source of mistakes not to repeat, but to analyze deeply, my way of thinking that led me to certain choices. From this can be born a new way of being and seeing things. Of course we must first go through all the stages of grief-denial-anger-acceptance before they can investigate honestly who we are. But the beauty is just that. Having done all this nonsense possible, we do not have no image to defend! We are obviously stupid but at least we should not pretend to be always present (If this was a concern), and we can face the new reality of who we really are so simple and sincere.
Denying the past does not help, nor worry about it too. It was an imaginary world that we created together, as we have created we can destroy in the process can also happen to learn what they really wanted from the beginning.
This is only my interpretation at the time, and having a history of stupidity 'professional, it would be presumptuous to think forward to give advice to anyone ....
Kisses to all, Andrea
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